Unconscious Commitments

You’re committed; I’m committed. I’d bet $1,000,000 that not only are you committed, but that you are an extremely committed person.

Let me rattle off what you are most likely committed to:

  • Being late to meetings or events. I have plenty of proof.

  • Odds are you’re committed to being overweight.

  • To watching TV. Alot of it.

  • To being in debt. No?

  • To not being happy at work.

  • To not being happy in your marriage.

  • To not being happy, period.

  • To not having deep enough relationships.

  • To not doing enough of something: exercise, praying, going to church, calling mom or dad, spending time with the kids.

You’re committed, and so am I.

The problem is, we’re not conscious about our commitments. We’re unconsciously committed. How do I know? Because whatever I’ve got [sic], is what I’m committed to. If you’re routinely late for meetings, or you, like average Americans watch 5 hours of TV a night, are on an anti-depressent (over 50% of our population) are divorced or on your way (again, over 50%), or are obese (75% of Men, 60% of women), then that’s what you’re committed to. Now, before you crucify me, I understand there are chemical reasons for needing antidepressants, or there are valid reasons for divorce, and perhaps medical resasons for being obese...but it’s the exception and not the rule.

Examine your life. If there are 2-3 things you want to change, what commitment do you need to change? If you want to be your ideal weight, are you willing to commit to doing what it takes? If you want more time to read, paint, or play the piano—are you willing to turn the TV off? Get off your phone? If you want to spend more time with the kids, are you willing to manage your work schedule so you have the time needed to engage?

The answer is in your hands. It’s about commitment, not wanting. Are you willing to be at the affect of your unconscious commitments or choose to live a life of conscious commitments?